If you are good at doing something, anything really, in this life… some one will watch, imitate, copy and perhaps outright steal or expand on that thing. I’ve experienced this first hand. I’ve been blogging since 2010 when barely anyone was blogging and there certainly wasn’t much money to be made from it. I’ve seen bloggers come and go. Some evolved into influencers. Some moved on to something new. But it’s easier than ever to become a blogger or influencer thanks to the few who started so long ago. Those were the blue prints. Although my following is modest, I consider myself an OG blogger especially in the Black blogger community. Many people may not know me, but I’m probably one of your favorite bloggers, favorite blogger. That may be a little narcissistic of me to say but if I don’t believe it, who else will LOL. The thing about being a creative is to continue to evolve and move with what’s moving to remain relevant. There are trendsetters and there are followers. There’s nothing wrong with being either or, as most people are, a little of both. But trust and believe if you are a trendsetter, you will undoubtedly be imitated.[one_half padding=”0 15px 0 0″]Over the years, I’ve had the pleasure of being plagiarized. It was probably the biggest violation in this life that I’ve ever felt. That’s how serious I take my writing. Not only did this person steal almost word for word my entire blog post, she didn’t even bother to change the links (which were my own bit.ly and affiliate links LOL). How rude. But I guess thanks because the money from those affiliate link commissions went into my pocket. I’ve had my blog posts, posting schedule, video schedule, mannerisms, Instastories daily greetings and rituals, hell even vacations (down to my exact poses in a whole other country) copied. Mostly by people close to me, who comment on every post or watch every video and most of which have a substantial following compared to mine. Does is bother me…HELL YES! I am only human.[/one_half][one_half_last padding=”0 0 0 15px”]But I find that it’s pretty pointless to confront these people. Oftentimes they admire you and don’t even notice that they are essentially attempting to hijack your persona. It’s usually people with no real sense of self or any idea what they’re doing (that you’re an expert at) who’s first resort is to copy. Confrontation usually leads to defensiveness in these situations. If it get’s to the point that an imitator’s essence thievery (yes, I just made up that term and it’s dope) is affecting your mental well-being and slowing down your productivity because you’re so focused on them not stealing the next thing, BLOCK THEM. If you happen to be friends with said unintentional thief, MUTE THEM. I find that passive aggressiveness works better in this situation than confrontation unless you have ALL THE RECEIPTS.[/one_half_last] [one_half padding=”0 15px 0 0″] [/one_half] [one_half_last padding=”0 0 0 15px”] [/one_half_last]
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There is a thin line between inspiration and imitation. Most people think if it’s working for you it will work for them. Sometimes it will and sometimes it won’t. That’s the chance you take when you’re a creative and you’re great at what you do. I love that I can inspire people to try something new when it comes to fashion or travel or makeup. Part of being an influencer is the ability to inspire and influence people to try things. I’m incredibly humbled that so many people value what I have to say. The thing you have to remember is no matter how much someone copies or imitates you, they can never be you and that’s your superpower. What helps me in these situations is knowing that what is for me is for me. No matter what someone copies, or imitates or steals, I’m still going to get what is destined for me. What’s for me won’t miss me and isn’t deterred by someone else attempting to be me. Trust me, it’s probably harder for them to keep up with you than it is for you to just do you naturally. And of course every so often I have to repeat those mantras over and over a few times while consuming a glass of Merlot but eventually it sinks in. I put the focus back on me and get ready to receive what’s already mine.