Answering 30 of my Most Asked Questions

I’ve done a ton of those drop a question in this box on Instagram stories and low and behold I never actually do anything with them. Y’all Instastories are a full-time job for me and once I’ve gone through them, I’m pretty much done for the day. But I’ve collected a ton of questions over the last few months, a lot of which have been asked multiple times whether via comments or DMs. So I thought I’d compile a list and answer them all in this post! It also helpful that you all can refer back to this post to find what you’re looking for easily. I am answering the 30 most asked questions about my personal life, blogging, money, shopping, my apartment and beauty/skincare/haircare. So if you wanna know a bit more about me, read on and drop any additional questions you have below in the comments and I’ll be sure to answer! There’s also a YouTube Video where you can learn more about me as well.


How did you find your NYC Apartment? I found my apartment by walking around my neighborhood. I have a knack for spotting empty apartments. My best advice for anyone looking for an apartment is to walk around the neighborhood you want to live in and look for those little realty numbers posted everywhere. 

How much is your rent? Currently my rent is $1480 per month for a 2 Bedroom 1 Bathroom apartment. When I first moved in over 5 years ago my rent was $1300 a month. I live in a rent stabilized building so I don’t expect my rent to ever be more than $2000. This is why I will never leave or get rid of my apartment. This apartment will stay in my family forever.

Are your plants real and what kind of plants are they? Yes, my plants are all real. The plant you’re probably asking about is over 7 ft tall and is a White Bird of Paradise Plant from home depot. When I bought it 2 years ago it was just 3 ft tall. If you want details on how to take care of a bird of paradise plant check out this Instagram post and watch this YouTube video.

Where did you get your book shelf, couch, dresser, closet etc? For links to everything in my living/dining space watch this video and this blog post. For details on my closet design read this blog post and watch this video. For my bedroom details watch this video. For details on my bathroom watch this video and details on my Foyer watch this video and read this blog post.

Do you play the guitar? I get asked this a lot because there is a guitar in my living room on display in my Bay Window Nook. Yes, I do play the guitar but only ever learned 2 songs that I taught myself watching YouTube videos. I started getting carpal tunnel from playing and eventually stopped. I also dated a guy for a while who was a musician and he’d play songs for me. 


What apps are you using for Instagram? I use a ton of different apps for Instagram and Instastories. The main one I use regularly is InShot. It pretty much does it all. If you want to know what apps I use to edit my photos, create my fashion videos, the apps I use to create cool instastories then check out my Instastories Pro eBook on my Etsy shop for the Top 10 Apps I use and how to use them

What kind of camera & equipment do you use for blogging and YouTube? Most of my photos are taken with my iPhone 8+. Seriously you can make any photo look good with a great edit. For my YouTube videos I use a Canon Mark II G7x. If you’d like to know more tools I use for blogging check out my So You Wanna Be A Blogger eBook on my Etsy Store

How do you edit your photos? I edit my photos using Lightroom App on my iPhone.

Do you offer mentorship? I don’t offer mentorship. I am at a point in my career where I’m grinding hard and I simply don’t have the time to devote to mentoring. I’m hoping to change that soon once I have a bigger team and am able to delegate more work. But all of the knowledge I can teach I’ve already written about in the Blogging Category on this website or in my 13+ Pitch Templates and eBooks on my Etsy Store. Please start there if you have more questions about blogging & being an influencer. I’m 100% sure I’ve answered every question you could have on the subject over the last 10 years.  I’m also launching a teachable school this month so stay tuned!!!!!!

How often should I be posting on my Blog, Instagram & YouTube to grow quicker? I recently wrote a blog post that spoke on How I gained 7 thousand followers in a month (organically before the follow Black influencers spree). Definitely check that blog post out for details on how to grow your Instagram following and engagement. Choose quality over quantity. Post when you have something informative to post that will always be relevant. For the bare minimum I’d say once a week on a blog or YouTube Channel if you are looking to  grow and monetize.


You spend a lot of money on clothes/shoes etc, why are you still renting? Please see apartment rent question above lol. My rent is hella cheap. I’m never leaving this place even after I buy a home I will still keep my NYC apartment. Also my finances and how I spend MY MONEY emphasis on MY, shouldn’t be so concerning to you. My bills are paid, my savings is stocked, I am debt free and I will buy whatever the hell I want. And not that I have to justify anything but I am single without any children. I make a significant amount of money and can spend it as I please. Don’t get mad, go get your own bag.

How much do you make a year as a full-time blogger? 2019 my was first year as a full-time blogger and I made a little over $150K. I’ve already made that much in 2020 in half the time.

How much do you make on average per brand campaign? This is a hard one to answer because they range widely in terms of what they want. If you are having difficulty deciding what to charge for your campaigns make sure to check out my newest ebook: What Should I Be Charging for all the tea and so you’re not leaving money on the table. On average I make between $5000 – $10,000 a full campaign that includes Blog posts + Instagram/Social Posts.

How do you go about saving money? Do you have a system for savings? I pretty much save everything. I only spend about 10% of what I actually make the rest goes into savings accounts (House Fund, Retirement, Taxes & Rainy Day). I also invest a bit of it into stocks as well. 

What books do you recommend for being more savvy with money? I recommend watching this YouTube Video where Earl Knightingale’s spills all the tea on the human psyche when it comes to succeeding  I also love Jen Sincero’s You Are A Badass At Making Money Master the Mindset of Wealth and You Are a Badass How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life


Where are you favorite places online to shop for pre-loved designer items? A few places I get a lot of my pre-loved designer items include TheRealReal (mainly for designer shoes & clothes), Vestiaire Collective (designer bags and shoes), Fashionphile & Rebag (designer bags) and What Goes Around Comes Around (vintage Chanel). 

How do you find all of the sales, sample sales, discount codes etc? I sign up for email newsletters of all the brands I love and online stores I shop at so I’m always notified of the sales. I also use websites like Lyst and Shoptagr to find items I love online and I get email alerts when those items go on sale or there’s a new discount or coupon code for that item.

What do you think your next designer bag will be? I’m pretty sure it’s going to be a Dior Matte Orange Saddle Bag. I’ve also been looking at the Bottega Leather Stitch Pouch Bag in Pink to go with my Pink Bottega Mules. But we will see yall. I’m not much of a bag person and that’s an expensive habit to take up.

What’s your process for choosing what you buy and what you don’t? I’m a lot more conscious about what I buy. I don’t like creating a lot of waste or buying things I’m never going to wear so I automatically think about how something will fit into my wardrobe and how often I’d wear it. If I don’t already own a few things I can pair it with, it’s a no go. But generally if it makes my heart flutter I buy it lol. I don’t deprive myself of anything especially when it comes to designer shoes. There are shoes I didn’t buy that haunt me till this day!

How do I find the stuff you wear and are you planning on creating your own fashion brand that we can shop? I post all the outfits I wear on Instagram and Instastories here on my account. It’s an app you can download and follow me just like you would on Instagram and every time I post you will get links to shop everything I’m wearing. I plan on having a physical products soon in the fashion category.


What products are you using to clear your skin & hyperpigmentation? If you have skincare question definitely check out this blog post and this video for all the details. For my hyperpigmentation I use Hyper Clear Vitamin C Serum and Pixi Beauty Vitamin C Tonic. For the texture of my skin and to help with acne I use Obagi Retinol .5% and Elemis Peptide 4 Nighttime Recovery Cream. My favorite cleansers are Elemis Gentle Foaming Face Wash and Rael Beauty Daily Detox Oil to Foam Gentle Cleanser. For pimples I use Rael Microneedle Technology Acne Healing Patches and Kiehl’s Blue Herbal Spot Treatment with Salicylic Acid.

What are 3 skincare products you can’t live without? Chanel Cotton Wipes, Elemis Peptide 4 Nightime Recovery Cream and Supergoop Daily Moisturizer SPF 40. I wear SPF everyday even if I’m in the house. Elemis also just came out with a few new super food products you can check out here. Use my code: Monroe20 for 20% Off at Elemis.

What is that bright pink lipstick you’re always wearing? It’s Laura Mercier Bring It and it’s amazing. 

What products do you use for your twist outs? Watch this video for details on how I do my twist outs but for the most part I use Miss Jessies Leave in Condish to lock in moisture and then Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting Butter or Aloe Whipped Butter Gel for my two strand twists. I also use a variety of Shea Moisture twisting butters as well. 

What do you use from your body acne? I know you mentioned issues with acne on your back and you suggested a product but I missed it. I found that using Herbivore Bamboo Charcoal Bar Soap works wonders on any type of body acne. It has definitely helped me in a very short time to reduce the acne on my upper back and shoulders. 

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Storets Top | & Other Stories Skirt | Bottega Veneta Mesh Pumps | & Other Stories Sunglasses | Louis Vuitton Multi Pochette Bag | Louis Vuitton Earrings



How do you deal with the criticism that comes with being an influencer? Whew honey chile. Fortunately, I’ve been doing this for over 10 years and have a pretty thick skin. It wasn’t until I started doing YouTube that I got a lot of criticism for my skin, hair, teeth, body, speech, personality, spending habits and everything in between. It took me a good year to stop caring what people had to say. I’m not letting anyone stop me from living my dream and securing the bag. I’m never going to be perfect but I love the person I am, so I don’t give those negative comments any time to flourish. I immediately block people and move on. Trust me most of those people wish they had the courage I had to do what I’m doing.

Why are you planning on moving to Miami? There’s something about Miami that I love. The sun down there does wonders for my mood and my skin. I love the food and all of the culture and the cost of living is actually a little lower than New York City. I am not actually moving Full-Time to Miami. I am buying an investment condo there that I will live in half the year. New York will always be my primary residence.

Are you Caribbean (you like a lot of Soca Music) & Are you African (you like a lot of Afrobeats music)? I am just Black. I just happen to love a lot of Soca and Afrobeats Music. Check out my favorites playlist here

Will you ever go back to practicing Physical Therapy? If you didn’t know I have a Doctorate Degree in Physical Therapy. I practiced for 9 years before going Full-Time Blogging. Watch this video for more details on that. I don’t see myself going back to working as a PT for the foreseeable future. But my degree and license to practice in the state of New York (and soon in Florida) lasts forever. So if I should need a fall back job, it’s already secured. 

Are you dating anyone and why don’t you ever speak about your relationships? People already judge me enough, I’d never bring someone else into that kind of scrutiny if they don’t need to be. I will probably never speak or show any relationships I’m in until I’m married and even then he won’t be a focal point in my content. Everything isn’t for the internet. I give enough of myself for people who follow me to be satisfied. My last relationship was a 2 year one and it didn’t end well so I’ve been happily single and married to my career. 

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this post! I hope it was helpful and informative. If you wanna know more about me check out this video on YouTube for 34 Facts About Me. Drop any other questions you have down below in the comments and I’ll be sure to answer them.







  1. July 10, 2020 / 1:32 pm

    Umm, I’d love to ask you some invasive questions about you neighborhood and rent. Oh, and also ask if you are open to adopting me because I would like to keep your apartment in my family, too. K, thanks bye!

    • monroesteele
      July 10, 2020 / 1:40 pm

      I get asked about where exactly I live a lot. I’m never going to answer that question. People inquire about my building my neighborhood and more but I never answer those questions because I don’t want people knowing where I live. If you are searching in NYC, I’d just say search in Harlem. Keep in mind I moved to Harlem over 8 years ago when rents were a lot cheaper. Thanks so much for reading!


      • July 10, 2020 / 6:21 pm

        Oh…I was just kidding! I’ve been in back in Brooklyn for a few years, my own family members have told me my return was a few years too late to get that good, good rent….and this is for property they own!

        • monroesteele
          July 10, 2020 / 7:50 pm

          ahhh ok LOL

          • Kathy
            September 8, 2020 / 7:03 pm

            Monroe, I have enjoyed your videos, Instagram, blogs and newsletters for a couple of years. You demonstrate grace and integrity in all your content. You are geniuine and I get a kick out of your sense of humor the utube videos!
            Thank you for sharing your enthusiasm and talents. Those who sincerely seek a future as a Influencer can appreciate your expertise and have the courage to take the plunge.

  2. Kawana Smith Coy
    July 10, 2020 / 2:11 pm

    I can not believe that people ask you some of these very personal questions.
    Appreciate you sharing.
    Im looking forward to your course , although I am still unsure where or how I potentially fit into this Influencer world…

    • monroesteele
      July 10, 2020 / 3:19 pm

      Girrrrrrllll they ask way more personal stuff than that. People have no couth these days LOL. I always remind them though. Yeah It’s gonna break down everything so you’ll know what will benefit you when it comes to the courses.


      • PAULETTE
        July 12, 2020 / 6:20 pm

        Absolutely Love “Get your own bag”. It’s unfortunate it is 2020 & you still have to tell people to mind their own business! Love your business acumen, your hustle, your tenacity & hard work. Keep securing your bag & enjoying life to the fullest!

  3. Valerie
    July 10, 2020 / 3:06 pm

    Great post enjoyed all your answers.

    • monroesteele
      July 10, 2020 / 3:19 pm

      Thanks so much for reading. Glad you enjoyed it.

    • Annevalentine
      July 10, 2020 / 7:13 pm

      Great post thanks for sharing, you are a few that I follow on Instagram

  4. Phylicia
    July 10, 2020 / 3:06 pm

    Hello Monroe,

    I’m just starting my YouTube channel & wanted to know if it is better to record on an iPhone or an actual camera?

    • monroesteele
      July 10, 2020 / 3:20 pm

      It doesn’t really matter. An actual camera will probably have the better quality unless you have the latest technology when it comes to a smart phone.

  5. N'gesty
    July 10, 2020 / 3:48 pm

    Hi monroe,
    I started following you on IG a while ago, but just now read on of your blogs. I like your style and energy.
    Greetings from Suriname

  6. Donna Peyton
    July 10, 2020 / 4:05 pm

    I loved this blog!!! Keep living the good life! You deserve it!

  7. Terrene
    July 10, 2020 / 4:07 pm

    I love this post I didnt realize blogging could be so lucrative I’d like to start a blog for older plus size women.

    • Kimmy
      July 11, 2020 / 3:00 am

      Do it, great niche. We need you!

  8. July 10, 2020 / 4:09 pm

    Girl you’re the best, you answered those questions just like I would and then some, and that money question child yes,! Nono of their business. I can’t believe that they would asked you that. Good Answer!!
    The things that people asked, they gave more guts than I. what??

  9. Lavette
    July 10, 2020 / 5:21 pm

    Great blog super real and entertaining!!!

  10. Aja
    July 10, 2020 / 5:50 pm

    I just want to say, I’m jealous that you spend so little on a two bedroom, I moved to harlem 3 years ago and I can barely find a one bedroom at that price more or less a two bedroom. Anyway, I love you blog and I love that you feature other black fashion bloggers as well, you are definitely an inspiration. Thank you for being so open and willing to share with us.

  11. Dwala Aiken
    July 10, 2020 / 8:21 pm

    Monroe thank you for opening up your life. I admire your drive girl I’m in my mid fifties, you remind so much of my daughter. @naturalskincarequeen. It takes a lot of guts and determination to do what you do, I’ve been following you for a while now and I’m a plus size sister, but I just love you! You’re giving me the courage to move forward with my channel (interior decorating) but I wish you continuous success….keep dancing!

  12. Yolanda
    July 10, 2020 / 8:36 pm

    This was a fantastic blog session as I expected nothing less from you thank you for always being real weather we like it or not. My one question for you would you ever visit Trinidad for carnival

  13. Marika
    July 10, 2020 / 10:31 pm

    As always, I appreciate you sharing so much of your life. I’m impressed by your hustle and business savvy, I see you running an empire one day. Can’t wait to see what Miami property you invest in. Thanks for taking us on your journey!

  14. Kimmy
    July 11, 2020 / 3:13 am

    You are entirely my favorite. I’m not into designer clothes & cannot relate to your specific clothing posts because I’m plus size, however every since I found you (2019) I’ve tuned in to every upload because I love your Passion for Fashion, your hustle & drive and have been nothing short of inspired by your channel. Recently I’ve created a Home Decor business which I’ve always been into. I’m currently filming & stocking content so that when I’m ready to launch I can provide consistent content. I work full-time so being consistent scares me. Besides we need more Black Home Decor YT channels.

  15. July 11, 2020 / 4:44 am

    I really enjoyed reading this and the shoulder padded top looks great. I don’t know if they ship to the UK but I might get it. The brown is very different. Honestly you post good content here. I always read your blog and I appreciate your tips.

  16. Cynde
    July 11, 2020 / 6:37 am

    I only follow 2 influencers and could tell you are a high caliber educated woman. God bless you in your journey.

    PS I am on Instagram as z9designs)

  17. Cynde
    July 11, 2020 / 6:38 am

    I only follow 2 influencers and could tell you are a high caliber educated woman. God bless you in your journey.


  18. A.J.
    July 11, 2020 / 8:35 am

    Thanks so much for sharing yourself with us- great post!

  19. Jennifer
    July 11, 2020 / 9:03 am

    I ran across a YouTube video of yours a few months ago just by chance, and I just love your attitude! And you have so much inside, I have a bit to catch up on. I have toyed around with a fashion aspect to my biz IG account (I make beaded jewelry), but with Corona and people staying home, ugh! Loved the article, you keep doing you!!

  20. Josephina
    July 11, 2020 / 2:40 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this side of you. Some of your responses were surprising Besides interesting. I will try out that soap you suggested for body acne. If it’s not my face, then it’s my body and or vice verse. Kudos to you for having your Doctorate in PT. That is amazing. Having a plan B is always necessary. Miami is indeed beautiful. It reminds me so much of the Caribbean. If I had the opportunity I would probably move there also. The only part I missed is the part where you shared your favorite fragrances. I love Perfumes and candles.

  21. Crystal Lane
    July 12, 2020 / 8:15 pm

    Awwww this was cute and sincere wish you all the best in your future… keep smiling and stay fly

  22. July 15, 2020 / 2:56 pm

    I love the intros on your videos. What editing software do you use for those?

    • monroesteele
      July 15, 2020 / 4:45 pm

      Thank you! I don’t edit my videos. Thanks for reading!

  23. July 27, 2020 / 11:18 pm

    Hi Monroe, I finally had some significant ‘down time’ to just sit at my computer for a few hours, where I’m not actually checking my email, taking care of business, etc. I’ve been wanting to check out your site a little more and decided to read the 30 questions asked. I greatly admire how you handled those little nosy personal questions. I feel the same way…some things are just not for others to know, not their business and not for blogging. As well, I don’t have a problem with discreetly putting people in their place so to speak. From the questions, two things stood out for me. One was the criticisms that you mentioned you received when you first started your YouTube channel. I find that now-days, people…some people that is, are just plain rude no matter what. We’re all human and yes, words do affect us at times. I’m very happy that you do not let any negative comments bother you. Personally for me, I’m about positive energy, vibes and lifestyle, and I can keep my positive countenance under any circumstances, with a smile. I dictate how my day is going, not others and I see you’re the same.
    I always advice people to embrace their passions, what they love and enjoy even in the small things in life, and I greatly admire that that is what you’ve done, and your enthusiasm is so inviting. The second thing was that beautiful acoustic guitar. I wondered as well if you played it. We have two acoustics here, and I have an electric guitar that I just bought a new amplifier cable for. I used to fiddle around with it, and now that I have a little more time on my hands, I’m going to dust it off. I post to your YouTube as Ruby Dee. I made a quick post several days ago citing a few scriptures. My time was limited and thus my explanation was a tad terse, so it may have came across as critical. I truly hope you were not offended as that was not my intention at all.

  24. Neeca Brathwaite
    July 29, 2020 / 9:31 pm

    Hey Monroe, I have to say that I was saddened a bit reading this. I read some of the YouTube comments and I’ve haven’t seen negative ones but I imagine there must be to require a response. Saddened because you giving us a few hours of your life seems to make some ppl feel they’re entitled to ask you anything. I opened my eyes wide at some of them! Wow. The only person I ever ask how much something cost is my husband lol not presents of course.

  25. Midori Rouge
    July 30, 2020 / 10:24 am

    Hello one of the best to ever do it! I mean that too. Watching your channel on YT is different then when I watch others. First of all the quality of your videos are impeccably done, but more importantly you do not look like you are shopping for us the viewers, or to be braggadocio. It clearly looks like you shop for yourself and based on great deals, service and quality of the materials you want to share your experiences with us. Obviously you get commissions from mentions, etc, but that is what makes you so smart. It is not easy to turn a love and passion for material things into a lucrative, sustainable career. You tho have done it and do it well! And why not! I, like many of your supporters love all things fashion, home and travel. When I watch your content I truly feel like you have helped to inspire me to do the things I enjoy unapologetically. You should get paid for that! It seems you are able to strike a good balance of exposure without exploitation. Which brings me to my questions.

    What is your (end) goal? For example, a travel agency, fashion empire or involvement in these industries on the low as a partner.
    Do you prefer to be in the spotlight or more low key?

    Keep up the great work!

  26. Raven
    August 2, 2020 / 1:19 pm

    Love all the your Vlogs , keep up the amazing work ! ❤️

  27. August 2, 2020 / 3:36 pm

    Hi Monroe ! Great post ! I enjoyed reading it. I admire how bold and unbothered you are ! And blunt . Those are attributes I’m trying to develop . I have been following you on you tube for a long time. I’m that girl who’s always commenting on your videos! You may recognise the name “ Nubian Queen”. I have just subscribed to your blog .

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