I’ve wrote about hair earlier this year and how it can affect life as an entrepreneur especially natural hair in corporate America. You can read all about it here if you missed it. Last year, I started wearing wigs. It was a slow process. I was always weary of them looking fake and wondering what people would think. But the more and more I scrolled social media and hung out with friends who swore by wigs and the freedom of being able to quickly change your look, I wanted in. I started slow. I wore natural afro looking clip-in’s from Big Chop Hair to thicken my afro after I took a rest from wearing my signature Havana Twists to grow out my natural hair. I can’t tell you how many people message me after seeing an old Youtube Video saying my afro is gorgeous and I should wear it out more, not knowing that also wasn’t my hair LOL. I then started buying wigs here and there, mostly from beauty supply stores on 125th Street in Harlem and from Amazon. I also got this wig as a gift from Big Chop Hair. It’s the Charlie wig that I’m wearing here. After that I was hooked! I also love rocking my Marley Hair Pony Tail too. The more I changed my hair, the more criticism I received and not from who I’d expect it from either but from other Black Women. There’d be a comment on my YouTube or on a photo on Instagram that goes a little something like this: I miss your Afro. I wish you’d wear your natural hair more. Where is your afro? I prefer your natural hair. You’d look prettier with XYZ hair. This wig makes you look old. Never wear this wig again. Why do you always cover your hair?
These comments only ever come from other Black Women and it happens so frequently that I lamented over it on Instagram when I posted photos of myself in two new wigs: Sue and Kerri. I’ve never been concerned with someone’s hair enough to ask about it. Except perhaps to compliment it or ask where they got it done. I think there’s this world of people who have never worn wigs and they think all wig wearers are hiding some secret underneath. Most of my friends and family who wear wigs have hair down their backs. Hell my own hair is shoulder length. I couldn’t figure out for the life of me, why so many women were so concerned with my hair. I got a little clarification in the comments of that post. It’s a sense of entitlement. That a person deserves a reason as to why you aren’t wearing your hair the way they would like. I wanted to understand why so many women felt they had a right to tell me what to do with my body and how they prefer I look. I mean, we as women hate when men say shit like this to women, but then turn around and do the same thing to other women. It’s hypocrisy at it’s finest.
A FEW OF MY FAVORITE HAIR STYLES
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I love my natural hair. I wear it out quite a bit. To protect it I wear a lot of protective styles, like my Havana Twists and yes wigs. I flat twists my hair and pop on whatever wig I see fit for the day. Sometimes, I cover my hair with an elaborate head wrap. I do what I want with my hair and I don’t give a damn what anyone else prefers. My hair belongs to me just like my thoughts and the rest of my body. Sometimes, I like a break from the hard work that natural hair is. It takes tender love and care to nurture and maintain it. It ain’t for the faint of heart. It takes years to find the right products and the right routines to keep a beautiful head of natural hair. It’s a process that those who have never been natural will ever fully grasp or understand. And I know, because I’ve only been natural the last 4 or so years. No shade to anyone who’s not natural. I completely get it and what you do with your hair is none of my business. I wish everyone could grasp that concept. Either way, I love the convenience of a wig. The ability to change a look in a matter of minutes. The power of being able to keep my natural hair protected and nourished with every wig or style I choose wear. Wigs are easy and they’re fun. Perhaps the next time the small minority of you who feel you have access to my hair or anyone else’s, you think before you type. There are a variety of reasons why people wear wigs or protective hairstyles and none of those reasons are any of your business.