Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day and for the first time in years, I don’t have to work today. I always thought that it was strange that all of the places I’ve been employed at my adult life, never recognized this historic and monumental day. I always felt a sense of bewilderment smothered in anger that I was working on a federal holiday, especially this holiday to honor a man who fought for some of the basic human rights I am afforded today. Only 45% of employers actually give their employees Martin Luther King Jr. Day off of work. Of course this varies geographically. I live in New York City which is pretty progressive but yet and still, I never had MLK Jr. Day off work in this state. Maybe it’s different in other places but New York City and non black folk seem to recognize every single holiday except the one that matters exponentially to black folks. It always makes me angry as if some how this is an illegitimate holiday only to pacify us black folk and not necessarily unite us as American’s. The only reason I have today off is because I work for myself. Since Dr. King is most widely recognized for his I Have A Dream Speech, I want to share some of my thoughts on dreams. The importance of having them and also of following them.
Your Dream is Usually Your Purpose
You Don’t Need to Run Your Dream Past Anyone but You
When I was younger, I wasn’t living my life for me. There were people to please, my parents for instance. So I fell in line and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s takes going through life and actually living a little before you know what you want for yourself. It took me some time to actually find what really makes me happy. I was really good at being a Physical Therapist. I helped a lot of people. Some people would say that what I do now, being a full-time blogger or influencer doesn’t hold the same prestige. Maybe it doesn’t but I honestly don’t care. I’m not living my life for anyone but myself. I will always have my degree. Always. I can parlay that into health writing, teaching and more. But I don’t care about prestige. I care about waking up and being excited for the day. Heading into my home office and writing my heart out. Even if it’s only read by one person, that’s enough for me. You also run the risk of diluting your dream when you ask for too many peoples opinions on what you should do. Educational advice is fine and dandy but everything required to fulfill your purpose in oftentimes already within you.
Don’t Expect Everyone to Be On Board with Your Dream
All people don’t think the same. Everyone doesn’t think like you think. There are even some fundamentally different ways in which men and women think. Different parts of the brain activated, different pathways and neuron synapsis for problem solving. There’s always going to be someone who thinks your dream is too big or unattainable. They can’t help it. Some people weren’t taught or have ever learned to see further than what’s within eyesight. Opening your mind to possibilities doesn’t come easy for everyone. Most people operate from a place of fear instead of a place of abundance. Fear rules a lot of the decisions we make in life. It takes practice and courage to break free from that kind of strong hold over our thinking. So don’t be so quick to cut someone off who can’t see the vision. Conversely don’t waste time trying to convince anyone either.
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Dreams are not meant to stay dreams. They are meant to materialize and take roots and take form and grow into tangible things. My dream was to write and now I’m writing. I’m not saying quit your day job, I’m saying don’t quit your day dream. If you can go and work 40 hours a week for someone else, doing something that isn’t deeply serving you, you can most certainly find the time even if it’s an hour a week to work on your dream, whatever that may be. I spent 8 years working a very demanding full-time job but when I got home I was always eager to work on my business and my blog. Put in the work. People who are successful rarely get there because of luck. It’s because they put in the work. They believed that they could bring their dreams to fruition and they had the passion and determination to turn the dream into a reality.
Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day Beloveds.
Even if you’re not off work today, take a little time and do something that will get you a little closer to fulfilling your dreams.