NYFW Day 3 — I wore my favorite shirt
Day 3 of New York Fashion Week was nothing short of amazing and a wee bit stressful. For the #SteeleVain event I was super excited that it was happening and all coming together. I went with my favorite shirt which is stylish and comfortable for the day. I am extremely type A and I poured my heart and soul into this event. Hunting down sponsors I thought aligned well with the mission of the event and finding the women who inspired me to invite. These are some pretty busy women and I’m so glad that everyone was able to make it. I’m very sensitive when it comes to my craft and I wanted everyone to have a great time. I also wanted the sponsors to get everything I promised them. It’s a delicate balance planning an event with sponsors. It’s actually one thing I swore I’d never do again after doing The Brands and Bloggers Event a few years ago, which was on a bigger scale than the #SteeleVain Brunch.
I don’t like the feeling of being stressed and no matter how much I plan and execute in advance, I always end up feeling that way. My jaw was legit tight for about a week before the event and is just now starting to feel normal. I am definitely a perfectionist and trying my best to be able to delegate more and let go of control. It’s actually one of the things a lot of us who attended the #SteeleVain brunch expressed. We are so used to doing everything, so it get’s done and gets done the way we want, that we’ve limited ourselves severely in what we are able to accomplish. Most successful business women, don’t do it alone.
They have a team of people who are good at certain things and all contribute to the betterment of the business. I’ve been running Fashion Steele NYC for 7 years. I’ve had 2 interns (mainly during fashion weeks to help cover and write show reviews) and one steady photographer (for the past year only). I know that in order to grow Fashion Steele NYC into the space I know it can be, I wont be able to do it all. That’s how creatives are though. We are good at being creative. Sometimes we are not so good at business. I’m actually pretty good at both but I could definitely be better at delegating.
Location: Meatpacking District
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But I digress, #SteeleVain was a success and I actually really enjoyed planning it. I think I may look into doing more events. I’m also not totally against doing another one. It may even become a fashion week staple every season! I’m always looking for ways to expand my brand and content and bringing dope women together fits right in line with that vision. Many of the influencer or blogger events I’ve attended have been more about the brand, what that blogger can do for the brand and less personable. I wanted to create an event that actually took the time to celebrate the talented women that put in so much work to make it easy for the rest of us. I’m inspired everyday by phenomenal women and if it wasn’t for them, I honestly wouldn’t even be blogging. It was nice to sit at a quaint brunch and just be ourselves, talk freely about the struggles we’ve all faced in our perspective industries and how we opened those closed doors. I definitely want to include more of the information shared in the future so that everyone, even those who didn’t attend can walk away with information that they can use in their own lives. Kinda dropped the ball on that this time around, but there’s always room for improvement.
Speaking of improvement, women of color, we definitely have to get over this whole attitude of competition. One woman getting that coveted natural hair ad doesn’t take away from you. I see this so much within this community and it saddens me. There are women who I know think I’m some sort of threat or that I’m coming to take someones place but that’s not the way we should be thinking. I’m not in competition with anyone but myself. All the information I have I will freely share because I genuinely feel like there is enough for us all.
Just remember that what’s for you is for you.