A few years ago after getting out of an unhealthy relationship, I was out celebrating my birthday and a very cute waiter gave me his number on a napkin. I thought, what the hell, I’m in the mood for a little fun and I obliged when after chatting for a week he finally asked me on a date. He was 6 years my junior, Algerian and very cute. On that first date we kissed so much my lips were sore and swollen the next day. From that first date we were inseparable. I knew he was happy when he would sing in the morning in the shower. He’d sing to me in French, Arabic and Berber. We were very much in love. We were that couple aggressively making out on the train that people hate. He even met my mom and I met his family as well although it was through Skype. I always sensed they didn’t approve. I wasn’t muslim and I was much older than him.
Religion never really came up much until the decision was made that he’d move in temporarily. As it often happens in New York, his apartment building had been plagued with a bad case of bedbugs. They are a real thing here in New York City, not just a myth (here are some things you should know about New York City before moving here). I actually didn’t know bed bugs were real until moving to New York and out of all the New York critters from rats to roaches, bed bugs scare me the most. They are disgusting and they are a very expensive problem to have. Which is why I avoid sidewalk furniture like the plague allowing 5 paces between me and thrown out pieces especially mattresses. Anywho, there was no way on Gods green earth I was gonna let my boyfriend go back and forth between his place and mine. So he moved in until his place was fumigated.
It is believed that the Quran (a guidance for mankind) was first revealed to Muhammad during the month of Ramadan. This is why the fasting takes place during this month to be thankful for that guidance.
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I’m surprised we made it through that time. But we did and we were closer because of it. What I learned from that time is that I am a true Taurus Woman (devoted to the core when in love). It also taught me patience and compassion. One of my favorite bloggers Meryem reminded me via her Instastories to show a little patience during this time and really anytime because you never know what someone’s going through. My ex and I are no longer together but I learned a lot from him, including all the best arabic curse words. Since it’s now Ramadan (which prompted me to write this post), I know how difficult this time can be for anyone fasting so Ramadan Mubarak.